As of March 15th, my hubby and I were married for 6 months. I had been meaning to get a post together of information that every girl thinks about after the big day and I finally got around to it!
Every girl dreams about the day they get married and how perfect things would be, but most of the time how you envision the day is not actually how it turns out. Now, that's not a
bad thing, it's just that certain circumstances and things can get in the way.
I had a pretty darn good day and I can tell you everything about my ceremony was all I ever dreamed about. I'm not sure if it was just how in awe I was walking down the aisle to my husband and how real the moment was that made me ignore everything else, but I wouldn't have changed anything.
With that being said, here are a few things that I
would have done over if I had the chance.
1.
Videographer. I know every single girl that doesn't have a videographer says this. But, let me side note and say that the only thing I wanted a videographer for was our ceremony. I knew that I would not be able to find someone to only do that part of it, so I didn't even entertain the idea. I relive the moment I walked down the aisle and when we exchanged vows all the time and it's the part I remember the most out of anything on our wedding day. I wish I had a video so I could see the emotion on Jason's face and my own (even if I had the not-so-pretty cry face). See below (lol)
Honestly, I think the whole concept of a videographer is cheesy. Every wedding I've been to has the videographer going around during cocktail hour asking guests to say something to the bride and groom.
gag. I thought that the photographs of the reception were plenty good enough. I had fun and it shows in the pictures, so I knew before and after the wedding that a videographer for the reception wasn't necessary. Plus, why spend all that money to have a DVD that we'd only watch once or twice? I guess I should have settled with asking someone to use a personal video camera to capture the ceremony because I would watch it over and over. I can't describe the feeling I get when I think about walking down the aisle and nothing but the real thing could display the emotion of those few moments.
2.
I wish I would have waited a little longer to decide on a dress. Now, do not get me wrong here. I LOVED my dress, but I also purchased it 9 months ahead of time. In those 9 months I managed to lose weight in all the areas I wanted to focus on, so when my final dress fittings came along I felt the dress looked a lot different on me.
I'll put it to you this way, I love my butt and my hips. I immediately knew I wanted a mermaid dress to accentuate that area of my body and when I lost 30 pounds, I also lost a lot of my toosh (sad face). I don't regret losing the weight, but I regret buying a dress months before I reached my goal weight. I wish I had the picture of me from the back in my dress when I purchased it, so that you all could see what I mean. Think Beyonce.
This is what I ended up with on the day of our wedding:
Doesn't look bad, but wasn't what I dreamed of when I bought the dress. Nobody noticed it the way I did and you all are probably thinking 'what are you talking about?!' but, these are the little things brides think about and wish they could have done differently.
Let me just get this out there too, I really wish wedding dresses weren't white. White is such an unforgiving color (aka makes even the teeniest girls look bigger than they are.) so, why can't we get married in black dresses? It's sleek and timeless and makes you look thinner. I get the whole "white is pure" and tradition and yadda, yadda but seriously, why hasn't anyone broke the mold yet? It's 2013, and you would think someone would push the idea of colored wedding dresses. I would have gotten married in a mermaid dress in the red my bridesmaids wore if I had the choice! But anyway.
3.
Nix the Tattoo Make-up. I made the decision early on to get make-up to cover up my tattoos. I love my tattoos and had no intention of hiding them, but they hung out really awkwardly out of my dress. I have sparrows on my sides and the ribbon part of the tattoos were the only part to hang out as well as the flag pole from the one on my back. In a last minute panic I completely forgot about this part until 10 minutes before we had to leave the hotel to go to the ceremony. Luckily, my bridesmaid Brittany is a make-up guru so we did the very best with what we had, but it still turned out really light against my skin. I had it covered up enough for my photographer to photo shop them out for the ceremony pictures, but I immediately had the girls wipe it off after the ceremony.
Here's what I mean:
If I could have done it over, I wouldn't have covered them up period. It ended up looking way more awkward and noticeable.
4.
Made an extended list of specific pictures. My grandma pointed out (in a pretty disappointing way) that she wished I had taken full length pictures of me by myself after the ceremony. As ironic as it sounds, I wasn't focused on the day being about me. We took a few shots in the hotel room of myself and we didn't get married in a church, so it didn't cross my mind to get those kind of pictures. Not to mention, I was SO over taking pictures that I wasn't even in the mood to take more formal pictures than we needed to. I was hungry and ready for a drink!
I had asked my photographer if I could make a list and he said the easiest thing to do was to grab him throughout the night if I wanted a picture. I should have known this wouldn't work the second we finished formal pictures because Jason and I were tugged in every direction for the rest of the night. I really wanted individual (unposed) pictures with each bridesmaid and a group picture of myself, my parents and my dad's best friend and his kids. We grew up together and getting us all in one picture was something I knew would be hard to get in the future with how busy everyone is. I totally regret not making it a point to tell my photographer that these pictures were a must.
5.
Kept it simple with flowers. I went way overboard with the flowers. What I had envisioned ended up being a lot less than what I could have gotten for what was spent. Every other table had a giant vase of white hydrangea's (which were b-e-a-utiful!) but for some reason I was stuck on having orchids. I wanted a yellow flower that wasn't a rose and loved the idea of the flowers in water. For those who don't know, orchids are expensive.
I really wish I had just kept it simple and had white hydrangea's at every table in a smaller arrangement and maybe just a yellow ribbon or something small and cheaper to accent it. I had a ton of color at the tables, so having the red and yellow orchids wasn't even necessary. I also wish I could have taken a hydrangea arrangement home, but we went straight to the airport the next day for our mini honeymoon. Luckily, some of the guests took the hydrangea centerpieces home and enjoyed them. I received a lot of compliments for how pretty they were.
and last but not least...
6.
Had a chance to say Hi to everyone (!!!) This was something I felt like we couldn't avoid. We only had 120 people at the wedding, but we literally ate and got up to start greeting our guests to thank them for coming. Unfortunately, we didn't even get half way through before we were summoned for the Father/Daughter and Mother/Son dances. From there, everyone was up and on the dance floor, or outside, at the bar, etc. We were pulled in a million directions the rest of the night.
I had way more "What I wouldn't have done over in a million years" and I'll keep the suspense going as you all wait for that post!
xoxo,
classy k